When someone asks, "Do you forgive me?" you don't owe them an answer. Forgiveness is for not for them, it is for you. When they ask you that question, they are looking to feel better, they are looking for pardoning. But forgiveness is not that. What has been done is done, lessons need to be learnt, emotions have to be processed. Forgiveness can't be forced. Enough emotions have to be processed for some healing to happen and for you being ready to say "I am done. I have learnt my lessons, I...
6 days ago • 2 min read
Hi Reader! I want to share something profound with you—something that took me many years to truly understand. You may have heard me talk about Life Purpose before, with all the variations and conclusions I’ve explored and shared. Well, here’s the latest one: You are already living your life’s purpose. Yes—YOU ARE ALREADY LIVING YOUR PURPOSE.I know… wild, right? We came here to experience life on this planet: the contrast, the separation, the polarities. And so, whatever your life looks like...
8 days ago • 3 min read
This year on my birthday I decided to do an experiment - I committed to doing 108 bows every day for a year.I am not religious and I haven't suddenly become religious. I believe in a lot of things but I don't believe in religion. Anyways, why the heck then I made such a commitment? It was inspired by Billy from July Life Coach. He's been talking about it for a while and, more importantly, he's been practicing it for a while too. He is committed to Buddhist teachings and he's set to help...
15 days ago • 2 min read
What is right and what is wrong? Is me taking a left turn right or wrong? What about right turn? Well, that depends on where I am going and what I want out of that journey. If I am just wondering around and exploring the area, it doesn’t matter which turn I take. But if I am going somewhere in particular, then it matters more. But even if I take a turn that is not in the direction where I want to go, it can still be valuable, and it often is valuable because you learn that there might be a...
16 days ago • 2 min read
Sometimes I daydream about having lots and lots of money, because I keep having these grand ideas of how to make the world kinder, safer, happier. Money can impact our happiness—up to a certain point. If I’m hungry, having money means I can feed myself. That’s a happy moment. If I’m homeless, money means shelter—another happy moment. If I’m a parent, money means I can provide for my family, which would make me happy too. But there’s a limit above which having more money doesn’t increase a...
28 days ago • 5 min read
Authenticity. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, authenticity is the quality of being real or true. I think of authenticity as free self-expression. What are the conditions that need to be met for the free expression of our truth, and why do we, as a collective, hide our true nature? What if someone wants to walk around naked in the middle of the city? Is that authenticity? What if someone wants to yell at you and claim that it’s their self-expression? Is that true? Social conditioning is...
about 1 month ago • 6 min read
I’ve been thinking about my life purpose my whole life. Do you ever think about it? I don’t have many memories from my early childhood, but this one is bright and vivid. I was 4, it was a cold and crispy winter night, I was walking home. The sky was clear and the stars were shimmering brightly in the wintery sky. I don’t think there was a moon or any street lights, but there was lots of snow on the ground so we could see our way lit up by millions of little lights in the sky. I think I was...
2 months ago • 4 min read
You are invited to join my Sanctuary for Your Nervous System on Substack! I just created it and I am so excited to share it with you! As I mentioned in my earlier message, I wanted to create a community. I am also on a mission to help our nervous system return to their green state (or "Green Light State" as they call it in the Traffic Light Model of the Nervous System in the Polyvagal Theory). I don't know about you, but I see a lot of activated people out there and in here too!Anyway, the...
4 months ago • 1 min read